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Ororo Munroe's avatar

Oh man. I'm a cat lover as well, particularly tabbies. About 8 months after we divorced (he got the cat in the divorce, which I was fine with), my niece had found out that our cat had passed. On Facebook, no less. He'd moved out of state 4 months after we got divorced and had asked if I would take her, but the new place where my sister and I were living didn't allow pets. So, he'd given her to a co-worker. We never really knew how old she was, but towards the end, she was losing weight and had become quite the picky eater (or not really eating much at all).

She was meowing a lot, and I wonder if it because she was in pain. We never took her to the vet unless something was really wrong because it was so expensive. He said every time we went for the one thing, they found something else. To this day, I'm still mad about that because I'm all about maintaining my own health, so why wouldn't we do that for our fur baby? We never had kids and I'm EXTREMELY happy we never did. I imagine she would've been healthier if we'd taken her to get checkups.

So, yes, enjoy this time and give him precious hugs. Sending healing thoughts into the universe you all.

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Olga Verkhotina's avatar

Losing a pet is such an unexpectedly deep grief and it can feel very lonely. I am sorry you’re going through this. We lost our dog last month due to illness at the age of 9 too, and that’s just way too soon. I found a podcast episode on the science of grief by the Huberman Lab very supportive.

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